“When you cannot control what happens, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to it. This is where your power lies.”
I was scrolling on Instagram on the 26th of December and I read the quote saying:
“The same boiling water which hardens an egg softens a potato”.
After reading this, I’ve come to the conclusion that our lives are like pots of boiling water; we humans are put by the chef (bad experiences) into this high temperature and pressure water, leading to one of the following possible consequences: some of us will be the hardened eggs while others the soft potatoes.
Right after this little scene, my friend sent me a screenshot of his conversation with his grandfather, where the latter said to him:
“Don’t be like a bottle of soda, but rather like a bottle of water.”
The bottle represents your emotions and the way you manage them, someone (meaning Life) will eventually come and shake your core. The way you react to the shakedown will determine which bottle are you: a bottle of water will remain calm and quiet after the shake, whereas a bottle of soda will explode.
After these mind shocking phrases, I asked myself:
“Am I more egg or potato?”
Am I the bottle of soda or rather the bottle of water?”
2019 was a year that shook me deep in my core and disturbed with my steadiness several times. That’s why this year was the worst – and yet the best – year of my life.
People messed with me in any possible way:
They left me by choice when I thought they were to stay forever,
They betrayed my trust,
They took me for granted and clearly forgot my worth,
They showed me that my happiness meant nothing to them sometimes,
They replaced me when all they used to tell me was that I was irreplaceable.
This year’s situations struck the deepest corner of my heart:
They showed me that self acceptance is something that takes years to earn but one bad phrase to lose.
They confirmed that you should always tell your deepest feelings to those you love, because health can stand in the middle of it all when you least expect it.
That relationships take a multitude of effort and sacrifice to build but one word to destroy.
A country takes millions of civilizations, thousands of years and a lot of hope and belief to build, but just one government to destroy it all.
Based on what is stated above, I can easily say that 2019 was really harsh on me.
However, little did I know that I was nothing like the egg and the bottle of soda, but more like the potato that became softer after all the hot boiling water covered me. My reactions as well as my soft emotions revealed how much of a bottle of water I truly was on the inside as I never thought of revenge or anger; instead of showing such behavior, I have always chosen the quiet and calm mood when my insides were nothing else than shaken. I resisted so much to the explosion.
Yes, 2019 was the year I revealed my best melody like a maracas after being shaken and this I owe it to those special people, those who actually stayed by my side:
My family who believes in me when I feel like the worst version of myself.
My scout girls because without them I would have never thought of staying strong in order to inspire them.
Sports because they have shown me that I can and that my will is stronger and unshakable when I put my mind into something.
The friends who stood by my side no matter what and chose to remain close to the imperfect me.
Lastly but most importantly, God because my year could have been a lot worse and I would have never learned these priceless lessons, had it not been for him.
And you? How was your 2019?
Were you the egg or the potato, the bottle of soda or water?